A huge part of my healing journey has been learning how to take massive responsibility for my actions, reactions, feelings and emotions. For some, maybe this comes naturally, but for most, it’s a process.
When we don’t deal with our ‘shit,’ shit hits the fan. That’s just how it goes.
When we don’t deal with it, it continues to come up – in every relationship/friendship.
When we don’t deal with it, we don’t heal and we continue to live in a low frequency state when we are all on Earth to live abundantly. <<< and that is our God-given purpose.
So what we can do…when those low vibes and emotions pop up…. guilt, shame, anger, frustration, comparison, fear, etc. Here are a few suggestions:
- NAME IT. Recognize it. Feel through it.
- Ask yourself why it’s coming up & journal it out. What bothers you the most about ____? It is important to release judgment on any emotions you are feeling. They are there for a reason. They are coming up for a reason. What is this triggering? Why are you feeling this way? Dig deep, go back…ask yourself the very first time you felt this emotion. Is this situation reminding you of that? Is it triggering something from your past? And remind yourself that fear is not real. It’s always something deeply rooted. It’s your responsibility to figure out what that is.
- Create a ritual for when you feel these emotions come up. Examples: journaling, praying/meditation, moving your body/working out/dancing, etc., getting outside/sunshine, listening to your favorite high vibe playlist, calling a friend to remind you of how loved you are.
- Allow yourself to move through. Give yourself lots and lots of grace. These things take time to deal with & move through.
If we don’t deal, we don’t heal. I spent years of my life shaming myself for feeling the way I did and not allowing myself to FEEL through it. I spent a lot of time in victim mode (default for humans, btw;)) — I would avoid, blame, numb the feelings.
But no longer… we are all a work in progress. We are not broken. We are human. With real shit. And we have to begin somewhere to heal that shit. Even if it’s baby steps. Just like life, we must take it one day at a time.
I would love to hear a few ways you deal & heal… <3 and do these steps help you?